Scripts for Interview 4

T1: Hi Noella I’m glad to be here with you today. Why don’t you tell me some of the things that brought you here.

A2: He’s a guy.

C3: Well I’ve been feeling very sad lately, and even a little anxious. And mostly I’ve been feeling it in my body and I don’t know what to do at this point.

A4: Where is he from?

T5: Why don’t you tell me about some of the anxiety, when do you think it began?

P6: Good.

C7: Well actually it’s been kind of building up slowly. And it started for me applying to out of state jobs. And now that I’ve been offered one and I’m planning to move away, three hours from home, my family has been kind of giving me a hard time about the whole situation, instead of being happy for me.

P8: Ask about her family.

A9: They’re so confused.

T10: Tell me a little bit about your family.

C11: Well I’m the eldest of three children, I have a younger brother and sister. And my parents have always instilled me in family values and doing what’s best for the family, and now that I’m doing what is I believe is best for me, they seeing it as a betrayal.

P12: Family values is best for the family.

A13: He’s closed off his hands are closed.

T14: Why don’t you tell me a little bit more your family values or what you think your family values are.

C15: Well kind of that you brought up the family thing and I was just kind of wondering from different cultural backgrounds and different genders and if you could really understand and help me to understand my situation.

T16: Well I can try to understand. Maybe if I can hear a description of what your role is in the family or how the order goes between the siblings and just a little bit about your family maybe I could understand.

P17: Good, great.

C18: Well I’m the eldest and I have a younger sister, three years below and then a younger brother two years after her.

A19: Why is he nodding so much?

C20: And so my parents always looked to me as being the role model and setting the bar for the family. And they feel now that I’m not living up to that role.

T21: I kind of hear a sense of obligation in your family. Do you feel obligated is that correct?

P22: He understands, he’s picking up.

C23: Yeah, I think you’re picking up on that. The sense of obligation, the sense of duty towards the collective family.

A24: But is it the same obligation?

T25: Tell me where some of your feelings are coming from. You have a sense of obligation, there are certain things that you have to do or maybe your family’s expecting you to do. How about you, what do you feel? What are you trying to do, ….

C26: I’m trying to better my career, I’m trying to venture out and do different things and expand my horizons, and do what’s best for me. And my family sees it as taking away from their happiness.

A27: He’s focusing on behavior not your feelings.

P28: Ask her about independence.

T29: So it sounds like you wanted to be a little independent, maybe move away from your family. Three hours away, maybe that’s not too far away, just far enough that you can feel a little independent but stay close to your family.

P30: He understands, good, great.

C31: Yeah.

T32: Tell me more about that being independent, wanting to move away. What was going on at home, was there anything going on?

C33: Yeah my parents and I have been arguing a lot. I’m 25 years old and they like for me to stay at home, and I feel very differently. And I don’t see it as being a betrayal. I think it’s just best for me.

A34: Is she spoiled?

T35: So they wanted you to stay at home, both your parents?

C36: Yes. To be the good daughter so to speak.

P37: Good daughter, what does that mean?

A38: Lots of obligations.

T39: What does that mean for you to be a good daughter?

C40: It means I have a lot of obligations to the family, to do what’s best for the family, and to uphold that, the honor, the duty and I feel why can’t I do that away from home.

A41: Dependent.

C42: And I just hate it. It’s really making me feel very sad and alone.

P43: Feelings.

T44: Tell me more about the feelings, is the feelings coming from you doing something wrong, or is it feelings of feeling bad because your parents are stopping you? Tell me more about your feelings.

C45: Well I think I’m doing what’s best for me. And they don’t see it as being that. And the static is coming from their not being happy for my own decisions.

A46: She’s sad, don’t make her cry.