Scripts for Interview 3

T1: Hi, Noella, nice to meet you and Kimberly. What brings you in today?

C2: I’ve been feeling pretty anxious and a little depressed. So I thought I could come in and talk with somebody.

A3: Depression…

T4: Good I’m glad that you did. Nice way to take care of yourself.

P5: Good. Make them feel good.

T6: What’s been going on recently that has made you feel anxious and depressed?

C7: Well in the next month or so I’m going to be moving to a different town and I think that’s been stirring up a lot of things that’s going on with my family.

P8: Her family, ask about her family.

T9: So the move is stressful and then there’s also something with the family. Sounds like it’s making it more stressful?

C10: Yes. Well for 25 years I’ve lived at home and this impending move has gotten my parents very upset.

A11: She probably won’t understand what you’re saying. She’s white!

C12: I’m kind of wondering … we’re both female but we’re also from different cultures.

T13: That’s true.

C14: So I was wondering if you could really understand my situation.

P15: Great, this is your chance.

T16: Well the best thing I can do is try to understand even if our backgrounds aren’t exactly the same. Maybe you can tell me a little bit about… sounds like your parents are really important to you.

C17: Yeah they’re very dear to my heart and what they think about and how they feel about my future is very important to me. That’s why I’m feeling very torn between kind of venturing out on my own and developing my career and doing what’s best for me, versus what’s best for the family.

A18: Totally burdened.

C19: So I’ve been feeling very burdened, very heavy. Heavy kind of feeling.

P20: She wants to understand.

T21: It seems like almost your family feels burdening to you right now. I’m guessing they usually don’t feel that way to you.

C22: No not really, this is kind of like the first time that this life event, major change has happened and presented its problems.

A24: It’s always been that way.

C25: So I really don’t know what to do, I’m kind of like at the end of my rope right now.

P26: She’s asking for help. Good…

T27: What’s been going on specifically recently that’s kind of like the last straw for you.

C28: The last time we had this big broad argument, and they pretty much just sat me down and told me their thoughts about it and how I’m not doing what’s best for the family and I’m leaving them, and it’s just a real terrible terrible thing.

P29: She’s burdened

A30: You’re forgetting about depression.

C31: It’s OK to talk about right now.

T32: How did that conversation about argument make you feel?

C33: It made me feel terrible. It made me feel really bad about my own decisions that I’m making.

A34: Really bad…Dependent.

T36: Not competent in making our own decisions?

C37: Yeah, it made me question my own decision making and ability. That I’m not doing what’s best for the family.

A38: You want to be independent but you’re not.

P39: What is best for the family?

T40: So it’s that real terror between wanting to do what’s best for the family and then wanting to do what’s best for you. Because it sounds like this is a real positive family ??

P41: Great!

C42: Exactly. You really hit the nail on the head now.

T43: Okay so when those two things are in conflict, it’s like oh which way do I go.

C44: Exactly.

A45: Get over it! Be independent.

C46: I feel that I want to be independent, you know, and that’s what all my friends are encouraging me to do, and my family bring me back and say no.

T47: What is it your family would like you to do at this point?

C48: To stay back home and to live at home and to work and to be a good role model to my brother and sister.

A49: Be a good role mode.

C50: And be the good daughter.

A51: You have obligations.

P52: To be a good daughter. What does that mean?

T53: What does that mean to be the good daughter when they want you to be the role model for your brother and sister?

C54: Well to do well and to succeed, and to bring pride to the family.

A55: You hate it.

P56: Pride in the family is important.

C57: And that’s a terrible place for me to be. To have this burden, this pressure. For me to do so well all the time.

A58: But you want to be the good girl.

T59: I guess that’s probably cultural also, the pride. Because from my viewpoint pride would be going out and seeking my own fortune and doing my own thing, but it sounds like that’s not the path that your family sees as bringing pride to the family.

C60: Yeah, yeah,

A61: What’s this session about?

C62: I think you’re really understanding my situation.

P63: And if she understands you she can help you.

A64: Can she really understand you?

P65: She can help you.

T66: Good I’m glad, I’m glad you came in.