Scripts for Interview 2

T1: Hi Noella, how are you?

C2: Hi Jared.

A3: He’s a guy.

P4: Trust him, he can help you.

T5: What did you come in for today?

C6: I’m here to explore some family problems that I’ve been having lately.

T7: You’re having family problems? Like what kinds of things?

C8: Mostly between my parents, they’ve been really getting down on my case and trying to make me feel really guilty about my pending move.

A9: You’re guilty but you’re also uncomfortable.

T10: Guilty?

C11: Yeah.

T12: I’m wondering if you’re feeling uncomfortable, like right here with me? I know that I’m male, and you’re female.

P13: Good.

C14: I’m glad that you brought that up, because that was on my mind.

T15: Okay…Okay, because it was on my mind too. And I know that can be kind of difficult.

A16: Does he really want to talk about me?

T17: So you were talking about your parents are making you feel guilty.

C18: Yeah, they’ve been saying it roundabout ways and sometimes just really directly about me leaving the family.

A19: He just brushed off that guy/girl thing.

C20: Yeah I was offered a job in a town about three hours away and they were like why can’t you just work here? You know what’s going on with that? You’re leaving us. And you have your role to uphold here in the family.

P21: Ask her about her role.

T22: So you talked about a role, what kind of role do you see yourself having within the family.

C23: Well I’m like the role model for my younger brother and sister and they really look up to me and my parents look to me as setting the bar for everyone else.

T24: You’re the oldest child?

C25: Yes.

T26: What generation are you?

C27: I’m third generation.

A28 He’s just curious…

T29: Third. That I think would be difficult. I mean in Asian family, I don’t know how traditional your family is, but I know that the oldest child is usually… like you said you have to set the bar.

P30: Great he understands.

C31: Yeah, yeah. I’m glad that you brought that up because I know that gender wise we’re both different, but we also have the commonality about the Asian background.

A32: He’s softening this situation…

T33: Good.

P34: Really neat!

C35: That helps me to feel more at ease right now that you’re understanding.

T36: That’s good, that’s good. I guess the funny part about it, I’m not the oldest so I don’t have to feel that. But I know my brother has to very much deal with that too, my older brother. Now you had talked about wanting to have this job. Is that accurate?

C37: Yeah…Yeah….

T38: And at the same time you have this family obligation thing.

C39: Yeah it’s a wonderful opportunity for me. I mean there’s great prospects and that my family instead of being happy for me, you know they’re making me feel just really down about it.

A40: Weakening…

C41: I’m even reconsidering just not taking it at all. And that’s been making me feel really anxious and really saddened by the whole situation.

P42: Feelings.

T43: Sad and anxious.

C44: Yeah.

T45: Like what does that feel like?

C46: It’s like heaviness in my heart that I’m carrying around me.

A47: He’s not very understanding.

T48: And it’s not like something that you can talk about or it’s difficult to talk about?

C49: Yeah it’s really hard.

P50: He understands.

C51: ….to come out into the community and to talk about because I’ve been taught not to disclose.

P52: Be supportive.

T53: I totally understand because in my family too I’ve got the message not to talk about things outside of it. So I’m wondering what it’s like for you right here because I’m not a family member of yours.

P54: Good, that’s great.

C55: I was very reluctant and very hesitant in the beginning, but now I’m feeling more comfortable.

P56: You can trust him.

A57: Do you really feel comfortable?

T58: Is there anything that I can do to help make that easier for you?

P59: Nice job.

A60: You’re saving her.

C61: I think that you’re very perceptive and you’re picking up on things. I can’t think of anything right now but if I do I’ll be sure to let you know.

T62: Okay please I really would want you to let me know. Even stop me or whatever. Okay.

A63: You want him to be dependent on you?

P64: I think this is going to work out.

T65: I’m thinking like a time that usually it might be helpful if we talk about what this whole process is like. Counseling. Since you said this is your very first time?

C66: Uh huh…Un huh….

T67: And I don’t know if that’s a direction you want to go in, or do you want take another direction?

C68: Nice collaboration.

C69: I don’t know, what would you think would be best …?

Debriefing

T70: I’m kind of torn between two things because I want to talk about that heaviness that you talked about and what that feels like. But I don’t want to push you too much.

A71: Why are you giving him the control here?